FREE · 12 QUESTIONS · 2 MINUTES
What's your attachment style?
Anxious. Avoidant. Secure. Disorganized.
The way you bond shapes every relationship you'll have.
Find out which style is yours — based on the work of Bowlby, Hazan & Shaver, and the ECR Scale.
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— THE 4 STYLES —
Which one are you?
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Secure
~50–55% of US adults
Comfortable with intimacy AND independence. Trusts partners, communicates calmly, recovers from conflict well.
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Anxious
~15–20% of US adults
Craves closeness, fears abandonment. Hyper-aware of partner's mood. Deeply caring but easily flooded.
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Avoidant
~20–25% of US adults
Values independence above all. Calm under pressure, but pulls back when intimacy deepens.
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Disorganized
~5–10% of US adults
Wants intimacy AND fears it. Push-pull cycles. Often correlated (not caused) by hard early experiences.
— HOW IT WORKS —
Three steps. Two minutes.
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Tap "Start the test"
Opens a chat-style flow. No signup, no email.
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Answer 12 honest questions
Real-life situations: text response delays, fights, vulnerability, pulling away. Two-tap answers.
3
Get your style + 3 things to try this week
Personalized profile, dating patterns, and concrete actionable steps. Plus, optional therapist recommendation.
— FAQ —
Common questions
Is this a clinical diagnosis?
No. This is a self-reflection tool inspired by adult attachment research (Hazan & Shaver, 1987; Brennan et al., 1998 ECR Scale). It does not diagnose any clinical condition. If you're struggling, please talk to a licensed therapist.
Is it really free?
Yes — 100% free, no signup, no email. ~2 minutes total.
What are the 4 styles, exactly?
Secure (~50–55% of US adults), Anxious (~15–20%), Avoidant (~20–25%), Disorganized (~5–10%). Percentages from Mickelson, Kessler, & Shaver (1997).
Can my style change?
Yes. Research suggests attachment styles can shift with consistent supportive partners or therapy. Earned secure attachment is real. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is one well-known modality based on attachment theory.
Is this the official ECR Scale?
No. The Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) Scale by Brennan, Clark, & Shaver (1998) is a 36-item academic instrument. Our 12-question test is inspired by ECR but is a simplified self-reflection tool, not the validated scale itself.
Should I share my result with my partner?
Many couples use it as a conversation starter — not a diagnosis. The book Attached by Amir Levine is a popular resource for couples navigating this together.
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ANXIOUS STYLE
Anxious Attachment Style: Causes, Signs & How to Heal It
What causes anxious attachment, the 8 most common signs, and the 6-step evidence-based path to earned secure attachment.
AVOIDANT STYLE
Avoidant Attachment Style: Signs, Causes & How to Heal It
The 8 signs of avoidant attachment, the developmental causes, why it's so hard to change, and the path that actually works.
DATING DYNAMICS
The Anxious-Avoidant Trap: Why You Two Can't Stop Hurting Each Other
The most painful (and most common) attachment pattern in modern dating. Why it happens and how to break the cycle.
HEALING
Earned Secure Attachment: How to Become Securely Attached as an Adult
Attachment styles are not destiny. The science of changing your pattern — through therapy, supportive partners, and self-work.
CROSS-FRAMEWORK
Love Languages × Attachment Styles: How They Combine in Real Relationships
How the 5 Love Languages interact with the 4 attachment styles. Why Words of Affirmation lands differently for an anxious vs. avoidant partner.
PRIMER
The 4 Attachment Styles, Explained — Anxious, Avoidant, Secure, Disorganized
A clear, research-grounded breakdown of each style. The foundation primer.